On genocides and the eternal question, who denies them - from Polish perspective

I felt like I can't write all of this, due to emotional baggage it carries to me. But I'm gonna try it now.
So, I'm touching the very difficult subject, right now. Genocides. My country - Poland, faced a lot of genocides and most Poles to this day, fail to address the trauma, because of the Communist suppression of any talk about what happened to the Poles during those awful times.
I'm trying to write all my blog posts, carefully - so that I don't get accused of something petty or of being someone that I'm not, but I have to keep certain things, politically incorrect.
I'm disheartened by the fact that Polish voices aren't considered at all, when it comes to the WWII, German Nazi occupation of Poland and even the Holocaust. Are most scholars attempting to erase Polish suffering and victimhood, so that my countrypeople get depressed and broke? It was enough for me to read anything by Danusha Goska and Mieczysław B. Biskupski to conclude that Polish people fell and still fall the victims to the stereotypes that are harmful to the Polish folks. That all Polish people are capable of brutality, antisemitism, thieving etc. And there were zero histories about the good Poles, especially during the Cold War, which sadly influenced the whole outlook on the Polish people.
Yes, even my favourite Rush bandmembers are suffering from this kind of bias against Polish people, via Geddy Lee's book "My Effin' Life" and Neil Peart's essay "Shunpikers in the Shadowlands, those two publications, being the reason, why despite the fact that on "Wandering the Face of the Earth" tour book, Geddy Lee promised to perform in Poland. They should be reminded of the fact that modern left-wing activists hate Israel for allegedly (or apparently) murdering Palestinians. I prefer staying neutral about this conflict, just in case, because I criticize both sides. So they should stop hating and erasing Polish Rush fans, right now!
Yes, I'm aware of the apparent pogroms against the Jews in Poland, but when I read the history, it seemed two-sided. Sure, Ukrainians say the same thing about the fact that when they targeted Poles and Jews, it's all due to the horrors of Communism they were traumatized by (mind you that I visit the Świętochłowice's rehearsal room, where the Zgoda camp was led by Salomon Morel, sadist, bestial murderer of opposition of Polish, Silesian and German extraction and a communist functionary of apparently Jewish extraction, who never got extradited to Israel).
I decry the Polish pogroms against Jews, I find them the abhorrent violation of human rights in general and as a pacifist, I was opposed to the dog-eat-dog situation even in my country from my countrypeople, but I find it rather sad that the excavations of Jedwabne cannot be made, due to the religious prohibition. And I'm against all religions, a declared atheist/agnostic. And I'd wish both left and right in Poland found a common language on this issue. Some even argue, they found the evidence that those were partially Germans (or maybe wholly them) responsible for such pogroms and as for e.g. Kielce pogrom, Heniek Błaszczyk hinted that those were Soviet Russians behind it, as I was watching the interview featuring him.
But why isn't Jewish community willing to acknowledge the fact that Poles also suffered from German Nazi occupation, were killed, raped by both Nazis and Soviets, were thrown to the concentration camps (as one of the first prisoners in Auschwitz, for instance) and that Poles, despite the death penalty (not all but, 6000, maybe more, made a history in Yad Vashem), saved the Jewish folks?
Why can't the Jewish community find any positives in modern Poland, yet, when they are visiting my native country? Why do they think like in that movie called "Defamation" that in very badly translated speeches of the two elderly men who assumed they are Chinese just, that they are somehow treating them like "enemies". BTW, "Defamation" is a movie directed by Yoav Shamir, highly recommended watch.
I know the nation that denies the complicity in Nazi German death machine. It's Ukraine. Russians have apologized for Katyn (but still they awfully wage the war, against the Ukrainians), Germans have apologized to Polish and Jewish people (although they somehow failed to give back the stolen goods from the Poles). Why can't Ukrainians allow Poles for the excavation of Volhynian and Eastern Galician massacres? What is so hard for them? Are they gonna lose some pride? They can find new people for this, they are a vast country.
I have to appreciate Jesse Eisenberg (hoping it's not a false flag operation to degrade Polish people in some ways) for willing to make a case for a dialogue between Poles and Jews. And also I'd recommend watching Michael Rubenfeld's YT channel about Polish-Jewish relations.
But on the other hand, it's saddening that Putin e.g. decides to say that Ukraine, Poland and Baltic states are all "Nazi" states, because he feels like it's convenient, so that he could wage war against us.
This is why, I don't buy Geddy Lee's support for Ukraine, as he repeated on My Effin' Life Putin's propaganda against Poland (I hope those were his biased parents, but even his mother - Mary Weinrib said on USHMM that some Poles rescued Jews).
To conclude, it's not my fault nor my will to be born in Poland, but no matter what, I will be treating Poland as my native country and I shouldn't vomit on my nest.